05 August 2017

CHRIS-VINCENT Writes: Only A Fool Will Take Advice From Social Media Relationship Experts Who Are Ironically Single



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Yesterday, I shared my story on what got me to pay the needed attention to the woman I married, although that particular gesture was something as small as she making shito for me.

And then the ignorant bitter deluded women who misconstrue their ignorance as feminism came out in an attempt to poison the conversation, stupidly claiming the essence of the write up is that women should be making bottles of shito for their men.

They also erected insane arguments such as women should not become slaves for their men.

First of all, only a fool and I repeat a fool would take relationship advice from a single person. It’s as offensive as saying you will show me how to make money when you are broke yourself. Remember the lottery doctor nonsense…

Social media is full of jokers: so don’t go about taking advice on any subject from someone who does not have what they claim to speak about. If their methods were effective, why are they single?

Interestingly, almost all the men agreed and then you had a pawn shop of these women, perhaps, bitten by men for their own conduct, claiming that to look for what a man really wants and serve that wouldn’t make him marry you.

So a man and a woman are to get married, the man is to marry the woman and when the man says it’s these things that sweep me off the feet, as in agreeing to the write-up, the woman says I wouldn’t do that. Yes you can decide not to do it, also expect the man not to marry you–it’s as simple as that.

If you are a woman and you think you can play smart on others including on men, you’ll end up one night in tears, with the ceiling being the only thing to comfort you with those pictures they form out of our thoughts.

Some of these women boldly said that a woman should not wash, clean or do whatever for a man until the man marries her since those are wife duties and not girlfriend duties.

I didn’t know that; can someone also tell me what are husband duties and boyfriend duties?

Where does supporting your woman, providing for her when you can which many men practise by giving out monies, buying them gifts and others reside? Boyfriend or Husband duties?

It seems today’s women want to be treated as wives but do not want to hold their end of the bargain by acting as wives.

The twisted conception that a woman should just receive in relationships and never give anything in return which a lot of our women adhere to, is what my write up was about.

And for me, it was the fact that my wife, unlike the many other women after receiving whatever I offered, was thoughtful enough to also find a way to contribute to my life by making something I needed that actually got me to consider her in a different light.

Every man wants a different thing; find what that man wants or what he cannot provide and make yourself irreplaceable in his life by bringing that to him.

A lot of men do this all the time so why can’t the women do the same? If a man meets a woman, he gets her attention and interest, even if temporary by doing exactly what the woman is lacking or wants.

Why can’t women find out what their men really want and genuinely get those done? Making yourself useful beyond s*x is what I am talking about.

All what some women offer in relationships is s*x. Don’t expect a smart man to marry you just because of s*x, something he can easily get from other places.

And note that there’s always a reason why Akosua was chosen over Abena. A man may not tell you but such choices are made rationally, meaning, backed by a careful evaluation.

Never buy into “I just love her.” Probably, he even thinks you don’t deserve to know why he chose her over you–because you wouldn’t even change or get it.

A lot of contemporary women are only set on the things they can get out of a relationship instead of being selfless and focusing on what they can give to their men–by going the extra mile.

Be thoughtful and do what other women didn’t or wouldn’t even consider doing–that would set you apart from them.

If you say unless he marries me I wouldn’t do this and that, then be ready to stay single or unmarried in perpetuity.

Because a man who is ready to settle does not heavily rely on just the desires of the heart but on rational deduction.

That’s why some say, think like a man.

For those relationship experts who are ironically single, please show us that your clever tactics work by getting a partner with them.

Until then, whatever those people serve must be treated as pure nonsense.

As Muhammad Ali Jinnah puts it: “No struggle can ever succeed without women participating side by side with men.”

If you do not want to participate in a relationship and just want to receive and chop chop, then woe unto you
Good morning!

—By Chris-Vincent Agyapong


Chris-Vincent Agyapong Febiri, Editor

Chris-Vincent Agyapong Febiri is the Founding Editor of GhanaCelebrities.Com , a Film Critic and a Human Rights Advocate; holds a masters degree in International Human Rights Law (LL.M), holds a degree in Law (LL.B), and he’s currently at Nottingham Law School, studying for his Legal Practice Course (with a second masters degree in Law) to practise as a UK Solicitor–he’s a Professional Truth Sayer.

He is also the author of the popular eBook “Success is a Right, Not A Privilege.” Contact: Vincent@topvincent.com

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